Moving past someone as emotionally abusive as the father was is very difficult, especially since the mother saw nothing wrong with it.   Being told everyday that you are worthless, or unwanted, or not good enough programs you to be a failure.   I'm surprised that she pulled herself out of her early life, and was able to have a relationship, and family that seem to be supportive.   When you grow up with people screaming at you for everything, when nothing you do is good enough for them, and the child knows they aren't wanted, it leaves deep scars.       

I know people who grew up with sexual, or emotional, or physical abuse, and never were able to get over the way they were treated.    I know too many who were sexually abused, told that they should never have been born, and nothing they did was good enough, and they spent their entire lives trying to get a person to love them who was incapable of love.       I know several people who had older family members abused, and the same abuser was a central member of the family, and was allowed near the next generation, and he sexually assaulted them too, but the person was always at the center of the family as if he wasn't a rapist, and monster. 

 I'm hoping the therapy for Brianne continues, and she can draw good boundaries with her parents, and if either parent starts the same garbage again, she cuts them off.         The mother didn't deny anything about what Brianne said the father was like, and that is very telling to me.     

The part where Brianne said the dad was gone, totaled 14 months, I think she said, so he wasn't gone that long.     I still wonder if she's his biological child.    

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